Hey moms out there. I was sitting here, thinking about what to write for this post, and I was coming up with nothing. Serious writer’s block. Then I asked myself, What do I need to hear? I thought about it for a second (literally a second, because I knew what I needed to hear.)
Encouragement. I just wanted some encouragement.
It’s hard these days to compete with the Pinterest moms, the Facebook moms, and the Instagram moms. (Snapchat seems pretty chill though. We just take pictures with our kids using the dog filter.) You know what I mean, though. The moms who seem to have it all together.
How can they possibly have it all together all the dang time when I can’t even find all the kids’ shoes when we try and get out the door?
Don’t get me started on the sad state of my house: it is ALWAYS in need of cleaning. I’m convinced the bathrooms would never get cleaned, but my husband is amazing and cleans them for me when I’ve gone too long without scrubbing the toilet. Heck, I just cooked expired meat today. I think it was my conscious giving me another hint to go vegan. But seriously, I can get to a place where I feel like I am failing every single day. I have to do a lot of damage control in my mind to fight that feeling.
If this is resonating with you, I am here to tell you that the thought of “I’m failing as a mom,” it’s simply not true. You are not failing as a mom. You are doing the best you can. And that, my dear, is enough.
I’ve started whispering three simple sentences to my daughter before bed each night. They are words I have to remind myself, and I want to remind her as well, even as a one year old. It’s three very simple, but very powerful sentences. Those words are:
You are loved. You are worthy. You are enough.
Dear mama, you are enough. I don’t care if your house is a wreck, you burnt dinner/didn’t make dinner/had Cheetos for dinner, you missed your kid’s first day of Mother’s Day Out (did that last year. Just plum forgot), don’t make cute crafts with your kids every day, or WHATEVER.
The perfect mom doesn’t exist, and we’ve got to stop comparing ourselves to other moms.
My kids don’t care that I leave laundry on the couch for multiple days, they just want me to sit on the floor and color with them. They don’t care that our house is always in need of a good sweep or mop or dusting, they just want me to read them books. They don’t care that I didn’t make my bed in the morning, they just want to cuddle with me at nap time.
Enjoy your time with your kids.
Time is literally flying for me now that my oldest is 6 years old. Stop comparing yourself to other moms. This is a toxic habit that we need to break. It’s also a toxic habit that we are teaching our kids. Stop that nonsense. Stop comparing, and start supporting. Support yourself by taking time to take care of yourself. Support other moms by coming alongside with them. Tell yourself everyday, as often as you need to: